Listen up ladies because we are going to get down and dirty in today’s blog post. Valentine’s Day is either a holiday you love or a holiday you hate because well.. you are either single and always on the mingle or already taken. I personally have always been a fan of Valentine’s Day. The whole ‘love is in the air’ intrigues me and I love seeing others happy.. and drinking wine.. lots of wine :). But single or not, I have a few reminders as to why caring about yourself is most important, and why a guy doesn’t define who you are.
For the taken…
I’ll never forget a conversation I had with a few ladies over brunch. They said that their friends felt too far into a relationship and there was no way out, that they are too old, that there is nothing better so they are in it for the long run. First off, no. Just absolutely no. You are a strong and independent woman and deserve only the best. So what if you are 27 years old and single?! In that case the fun has just begun and why stay with someone if you aren’t fully happy? Do what is best for you and do not let anyone tell you otherwise.
Don’t compare other relationships to your own. You will never be happy if you are comparing your relationship to others constantly, and you have to focus on the fun and exciting things going on in your own relationship. It can be hard don’t get me wrong to be happy for someone else when you want the same thing, but you have to know that there is a completely different plan for you and it will work out just the way it should.
For the single…
Follow your heart. Let’s give this a PR spin and make it not as cliche. If you think something of the guy in your office, man up and make a move because God knows he never will. I am a firm believer in taking risks because you never know if you don’t try right? At minimum you learn courage and strength and you become a little bit stronger than you were before.
You are in control of your happiness. I have learned from all my travels and experiences, that there is not another person that plays a part in defining who I am. I define who I am and the moments I experience help solidify just that. I control my happiness, and those who surround me like Bill, my family and friends play a part into making me even happier, but ultimately I am in control.
For both…
“I’m not mad… I’m just disappointed is all.” Don’t have any expectations. This is for both the single and the taken. I am guilty for having expectations (I am HUMAN), and then get disappointed later on because what I hoped didn’t go as planned. This is true for me from past relationships and even friendships. If you can get in the mindset of expecting nothing, you will be pleasantly surprised at a later time. With Valentine’s Day upon us especially, love is all that matters and don’t expect anything from one another because having someone that loves you and adores you is most important. Ladies, we deserve the best but by having no expectations will help us be happier in the long run.
Flaunt it honey. A few years ago I met an older woman, probably in her 70s, who was SO dressed up and ready for the day she looked absolutely adorable. I told her she looked very nice and she responded “Honey, I am dressing nice today because it makes ME feel good and that is what’s most important.” Since then, I hold myself to that same standard. I dress to impress because it makes me feel good. If a guy thinks I look good too, fantastic and I’ll gladly accept the compliment, but all that matters most is that I feel great.
So Valentine’s Day is almost here and again, single or not, I hope you take time for yourself, get a mani/pedi, go on a new adventure, or get a couple’s massage if that’s your jam. I am excited to throw a little Galentine’s Day party and get together with my closest gals this weekend (blog post coming soon!) Don’t forget to do what makes you happy, take chances and follow your heart even if you don’t know what the future holds.
XO.
Lex
